Returning to The Mecca, Howard University, last week reminded me of the incredible power of friendship. There’s something magical about seeing people after years—decades even—and picking up exactly where we left off, as if no time has passed. It struck me that although I haven’t seen some of these friends since graduation, the bond we built was so strong that it could withstand time and distance. When I think about the significant milestones in my life, it’s often the people who were around me in those moments that shaped my experience. These friendships have the power to make or break us, providing support, laughter, and perspective when we need it most.
As a dance teacher, I see this same bond forming between my students. The friendships they’re building today will likely become the kind they cherish for a lifetime. There’s a unique connection that comes from dancing together—spending hours rehearsing, overcoming challenges, and celebrating victories. These are the friends who understand your passion, share your struggles, and celebrate your successes as if they were their own. It’s more than just a friendship; it’s a sisterhood.
During my trip back to Howard, one thing became abundantly clear—everyone is going through something. Whether it’s a health challenge, the loss of a loved one, or a career transition, we all have our battles. But what truly struck me is how often we choose to go through those challenges alone. As a society, we’ve developed a habit of grinning and bearing it, hiding our struggles for fear of being a burden. That breaks my heart.
Through my own journey of self-work and self-love, I’ve come to realize that I am better equipped to show up for my friends when they need me. But what I’ve discovered is that many people don’t ask for help when they’re struggling. They carry the weight alone, and that can feel isolating. A few weeks ago, a 6-year-old student shared that she had recently been baptized, and her friend was so inspired by her that she decided to get baptized as well. It was a beautiful reminder that we have the power to encourage others, simply by being open about our own journeys.
So, in this season, I want to encourage us all to reach out. Don’t assume you’re a burden to those around you. Asking for help can be hard, but going through life alone is even harder. Let’s be the encouragers, the ones who remind our friends that they don’t have to carry the weight alone. And let’s remember that the friendships we build today, especially those formed in the dance studio, can last a lifetime.
Ms. Erin
